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Monday, December 17, 2012
Facing big life decisions is difficult, but in thinking about it... Why does it have to be? Throughout our lives we do what we can to make sure that we are happy. If we are not achieving personal happiness then I feel most other things in life begin to suffer. I had a friend recently ask me, "What would you do if there were no consequences?" This question really struck a chord. I often ask people what they would do with their lives if money were no object. And I feel this is an important question to consider as well. While money is an object, happiness is a way of life. It seems like we take many things as they come and just accept it as "life". Some things are out of our control, but not everything needs to be dismissed. If we were forced into a situation that we didn't want to be in, we would not allow it to continue very long. So why do we accept some situations? Why do we stay in dead end jobs that we don't enjoy, or stay in relationships that can be unhealthy? What is it in us that makes these situations seem acceptable to stay in, but in other uncomfortable situations we find a way out? If you look at your life and can say, "Yes I am happy" then things are going well. But if you look at your life and think, "I wish this were different" then why wouldn't you change that? Taking a hard look at one's life, without justifying your circumstance or pretending to be happy, can be a big eye opener for a lot of people. Don't allow yourself to feel stuck. Don't accept situations you don't want to be in. If it affects others make sure you keep them in mind and be respectful, but don't put others' happiness before your own because nine times out of ten, they aren't doing that.
If we do not achieve complete personal happiness, other happiness' will falter and perhaps fail. I feel that it is so important to make sure we are doing all that we can to make ourselves happy. If there is something that you want, get it. If there is something you want to do, do it. If there is somewhere you want to go, go there! Don't let anything stand in your way, because it won't go away, and denying yourself true happiness is no way to live. What I mean by true happiness is, not falsified happiness. Not superficial fixes to a bad situation, or self medication to numb the pain of defeat. True happiness is the raw and real happiness that only we can create and give to ourselves. Allow yourself that, and all other things will just fall into place. So think to yourself, "What would I do if there was no consequence?" If you can answer that, good! If you can get yourself as close to it as possible, even better!
Sometimes I wake up feeling so tired, like my eyes are holding the weight of a world that I don't want to face. I sit here everyday on my laptop in my living room doing homework, eating, watching YouTube, playing video games... And sometimes I think.."What is the point of all this?" Now, don't get me wrong, I don't wonder this in a morbid suicidal way, I just wonder what goals I have, and what I am truly capable of. But less do I wonder that, than about other people. Everyday I sit here, I get more and more wrapped up in my own life and the more self-involved I become. It worries me that I am losing touch with an outside world. It worries me that life still goes on. No matter what, it will ALWAYS go on. We can't be part of everything, but being part of nothing feels worse. Life is very overwhelming most of the time, but if it is threatened things suddenly seem so clear to us. I have never experienced that, and I suppose that is why I try to humble myself every now and again. We have to remind ourselves of all that we have. All we are consumed with is what we don't have and very precious moments slip by unnoticed. Those moments turn into hours, days, years, and even decades before we stop to even realize what has happened. If every person in the world woke up everyday and first thought to themselves... what is going to be my goal for today? There should be a set of goals for each day though like: Help someone who needs it, think kindly of another person, try to learn one new thing, or let someone know you were thinking about them. If we woke up each day with goals like those I feel like this world would be a different place. And to be honest those goals are so simple and attainable that it almost seems stupid to even consider. But why not? I know it seems naive, but honestly think. How does it make you feel to just imagine doing a nice thing for someone who may need it? It feels pretty satisfying just to think about. I don't know what the point to all of this is, and the more I wonder the more I realize maybe that IS the point, to wonder. Never stop wondering, never stop growing. We don't want to squander our opportunities, and we don't want to take things for granted. I wish there were a way to reach out to every person in the world and ask them to just try. Try to consider other people. We are slowly trashing our world and being oblivious isn't working anymore. Why is it that so many people survive on so little and so many others have way too much? Life doesn't seem fair and neither does the world, but why do we just accept that? It may be hard to get even one person to change, but it seems impossible to get 7 billion people to. If we all believed the same things life may be easier, but a hell of a lot more boring. That is the point of tolerance. We as humans have so little of it anymore, but tolerance is important because difference exists. We all view difference as a bad thing, but it is something that should be celebrated.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
Throughout life we go through what has been theorized as psychological and physical stages. Most every person goes through the same stages, perhaps not at the same time, and not in the same way due to different environments. Parents peers and society put pressures on us as we grow. But eventually we become the people that we are going to be for the rest of our lives and ultimately we are the only ones that can control that.
There is only one person that has control of our actions, one person that has control of our futures and none of our pasts. One person who knows everything about us, every action we take or contemplate taking, and every thought we have ever had. The one person that truly knows who we are and who we want to be and judges us wholly on those facts. In many societies and cultures there are variations of this person but in most Christian religions this person is God. The following words are not intended to discredit anyone's beliefs or views, I am simply stating mine as everyone is allowed the right to choose what they believe. Because that is just it, a right. Rights are important and I think some people have a gross misunderstanding of the word right. There is one person in the world that has the right to control you and that is not God it is You. I feel like the idea of God is the idea of one's conscience. And God, to me, is an acronym, Governing One's Decisions, GOD. I don't need a back story, I don't need a building to be in, and I do not need other people telling me how to act think and feel. There is a simple right and wrong in the world and our conscience helps guide us away from the wrong. When it falters there are laws in place to help us stay the course. I try to be a decent person, an honest person, and a thoughtful person. Because while I am the only person in control of my life there are 7 billion others on this planet just like mine.
Again, I am not discrediting God or Church because in ways it is helpful to have something that keeps you honest. The conviction that religion holds is just what some people need. Either way, we all have the ability of free thought and in America we are given the right of choice. Whatever it is that you believe, don't forget that your conscience is truly what governs you. You are the only person that can control you, and you can't control anyone else.